How to cope with herpes talk rejection

0:00It's not like seeking your acceptance of like oh well like so and so on so and so-and-so you know accepting me either way so therefore it's not a big deal but being like oh well I accept myself either way and therefore it's not a big deal what anybody else thinks yeah that's brilliant brilliantly put and and what comes to mind is if there's a path off to this side of like codependent and I need a man in order to make me happy versus I'm happy on my own and that's okay and I want a man as well and and if I get rejected or not it doesn't matter I still love myself if we're down that path that's much better than the other co-dependent path right but then there's even more subtleties down this path and what I see a lot of times is even when you first start down this path because it takes time to really sink into ourselves and love ourselves but we get it in our minds well I'm down this path and it doesn't phase me if someone rejects me or not what can show up is that in like one of your first disclosures like if you get rejected the first way of responding to that could be like well I I love myself dumbass right yeah like at least I'm not an idiot like you are you don't ...

1:23... realize that I am amazing and did it enough right I can totally see myself doing that right so that's the subtlety of actually like that part of you still doesn't feel accepted by yourself or else you wouldn't actually get stimulated by a rejection it would just be like oh it might be disappointing right but it won't be a reaction like well how dare you reject me you don't see how much of a catch I am right right yeah but when it comes down to it relationships relationships across the board it's a preference do I want to be friends with you or not yes no I don't know it's a preference it's okay if you don't want to be friends with me okay that might trigger something in me of like not feeling like I'm enough right but it also may be an opportunity for me to recognize that place in me oh wow I feel like I'm not enough I get to love that part of myself right so that's why this this has a path of even getting rejected can be one of your greatest teachers thanks for watching now go here for more information you