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Needing vs. yearning for a relationship

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So cool it's not like there's a lacking that needs to be filled but it's just like oh everything can be further expanded beyond what it normally would be yes yeah I like that a lot like when you normally would think of relationship it might be this aching in your heart like oh like this heaviness can you tap into that like H that's coming from I I need a man so that I can feel better than I do right now well guess what that's not up to any man in the world to do right so when you can actually get to this place of excitement that we just shared moments ago yeah oh my God I'm looking for that kind of a man I don't need that kind of a man to be happy but wow I'm ready to share this magnificence of myself with that kind of a man like that kind of a man deserves this yeah do you know the difference between uh needing a relationship and yearning for a Rel relationship no they sound like the same thing it's a huge difference and then and it's in the subtlety of how you feel okay okay a need needing a relationship is saying I can't find happiness and wholeness unless someone else fills this for me okay it's very it's looking outside of yourself for happiness right yearning at its the very coarsest ...

... level May feel very similar because there is still this pull you want something in the world you want this man out there but what the what yearning is is you've already tapped into love and acceptance and I am whole as I am and the longer that I stay in this like self-loving place I just I overflow love and overflow and overflow and I love everything in my life and I love my friends and I love my my family and everyone that I meet I I love and and I and now as as I'm with that more and more I am yearning to share this overflowing of love with a man because there's only so much that I can share of this deep love with my friends and my family I'm ready to actually share this deep overflowing of of love with a man who can who can meet me in this I like that attitude a lot yeah do you feel the difference totally cool yeah totally yeah thanks for watching now go here for more information

At first blush, needing a relationship vs. yearning for a relationship seem to be the same thing. After all, it's a similar sense of being pulled toward something that you don't have now. An aching, a yearning. When we *need* a relationship, it comes from a (completely untrue) belief that we are lacking something in our lives and if we had it, we would be whole, good, worthy. But what has always been true is that you are lovable right here and now when you claim it and own it. And from that claiming of love and practicing love (with yourself, with your friends, with your family, with strangers), you create more of it. And as that love overflows more and more, your heart aches with the desire to share it on a deeper and deeper level; your heart yearns to share this love in romantic relationship.

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