Attachment is a natural part of being human. We are going to be attached to certain aspects of relationships, romantic or otherwise. If we want them and need relationships, we are attached. There are some healthy attachments and needs. To feel loved, nourished, accepted. To feel like we belong. And the unhealthy ones are tied to beliefs that if you didn't have a relationship you wouldn't be okay. So how do we work toward a healthy detachment from needing a relationship? When self-acceptance overflows between two people, the relationship is less codependency and more a celebration of sharing love. There's less of a "tied down" feeling and more of a feeling of choice. I am choosing to be with you because this relationship is nurturing me and growing me.