How to maintain healthy detachment

0:00One thing that's hard is to maintain that kind of like distance pneus of. Okay well no matter what they say like I'm okay going on. Is at a point in time where I'm willing to like share something. So personal with somebody I'm already like attached. You know I already have interest in this particular specific person and I. How to attach to it depends on the person I don't know. Well just in general like if you think of mr. Right in your mind. Like you like what would you be attached to somebody is attractive. And understanding and smart and smart and leans that I'm not that I. Can learn from and like adventurous does things that I don't do that I. Can learn from also those are characteristics of the man yeah right. And you and you're saying that you're you would be attached to its not that you're attached to the characteristics you're a time to. What you get from those characteristics what you get in relationship with those. Right yeah okay so so any sort of attachment in relationship is a codependency think of. And and and it's not to shame that right I mean I'm in a loving deep relationship. And yeah I have needs that are met in relationship and I notice those. But there's also this other aspect where when we can love ourselves. And all of those all of those parts of ourselves that we want to be loved by someone else in relationship then coming into relationship that isn't codependent that is two whole people that love themselves coming together hmm. Is actually less a I need you and you need me and more a celebration. Okay it's like you know yes I I am fine by myself I'm fine single it doesn't mean that I'm not wanted. And not loveable yes I have a preference to be in relationship. And I'm okay as I am then once that once the man comes into your life we. Were like oh wow this is someone who really complements like what.

2:24... I got going on in the world this is someone that I. Could see myself with this is someone who actually makes me more than. Who I am by myself yeah and then it's actually an overflowing as opposed to you hear this all the time with people getting married oh this. Is my better half yeah this is the person that fills in this massive black hole that I haven't. Well let's not look at it that way at all let's actually say I'm a whole human being as. I am myself and this other person that I'm with actually has me feeling amplified it. Actually brings me beyond myself yeah man I'm already awesome alone but man there's something about this man that when I'm with him. I feel like even more of myself thanks for watching now go here for more information you.