Moving up the emotional staircase

When we first hit a roadblock in our lives, we might already be able to clearly see what life will be like when we clear it, so an aspect of denial shows up to say we're already there. But what happens in that "skipping ahead" is that we suppress the natural grieving process that wants to happen. So instead of trying to jump from the bottom all the way to the top of the staircase, we take it step by step, settling into each step and feeling it fully while still maintaining the optimism and self-love that is critical to healing.