The herpes talk = success

0:00The success of what you're going for is just doing the hard thing like doing like having the disclosure conversation hi I'm adriel creator of the herpes opportunity which is all about positively shifting your mindset disclosing to potential partners in a way that truly connects you and ultimately finding the love that you want and deserve now you can check out the free ebook linked in the description below about having the talk and now onto the video I hope you enjoy it the disclosure isn't just about like the getting the accepted or rejected that it's not about like getting a yes isn't the success that you're going for the success of what you're going for and reframe this in your own mind is just doing the hard thing like doing like having the disclosure conversation that is success for you if it's a yes then it's icing on the cake but the fact that you did a hard thing and you can look back on it whether you're accepted or rejected you can look back and still feel good walking away from that experience saying yeah I did I did something that was hard I did ...

1:25... something that was courageous I did something like for the good of my heart and for the good of the person I was with like you feel you get to feel good about that interaction regardless of what the other person says back what their response is and that can become a practice of self-love so you're not you're not giving the other person the ultimate ultimate power to reject you or accept you you're giving them the choice and you're stepping in and sharing this important information with them from a place of care from a place of understanding and empathy like that is practicing being a a decent human being in the world right you get to enjoy that as crazy as that sounds you get to enjoy the disclosure conversation doesn't that sound crazy it's something you just want to avoid and get out of the way but the more you can actually sink into it as intense as it feels in the moment that will skyrocket you and your and your development and your own self-worth trust me on that you're going to like go leaps and bounds when instead of running away from the talk you actually settle into it and breathe into it and and practice being present through it you you use a bomb metaphor it's funny because I use that metaphor too like when a lot of people feel like they're walking ...

2:46... into a war zone and they have a hand grenade they want to throw it over the brick wall and then close their eyes and ears and just wait for the explosion but to flip that metaphor in its head based on what I just said this isn't war this isn't a grenade it's not a bomb it's an opportunity for connection if you're there for it more often than not when people like actually step into disclosure conversations from this like opportunity perspective trademark registered from the opportunity perspective it's like more often than not it's a beautiful connecting experience first of all because they're disclosing to someone who they trust with their vulnerability right that's the when people ask me when do I dispose to a partner when you trust them with your vulnerability more often than other even if it's a no they'll say wow thank you for sharing that with me that took a lot of courage they'll see you instead of seeing herpes right so what I'm saying all of that is a prelude to when you're able to be present in the herpes conversation you're basically being present with vulnerability you don't when you're ...

4:05... expecting a bomb to go off you're not going to be there in there like looking into their eyes if a bomb doesn't actually go off and they're act they actually see you and you get to catch that moment of them being like wow like thank you like that took a lot for you to say that I really appreciate you like you get to be there for that too I hope you got a lot out of that video and if you did please let me know please like comment and subscribe and keep an eye out for more videos just like this you