When do I have the herpes talk

0:00So to answer your question because that that isn't the number one question that comes up when do I disclose what I have come to over the years is that it's it can't be something where like okay after the third date or whatever it has to be a gut check on asking yourself the question do I trust this man with my vulnerability hi I'm adriel creator of the herpes opportunity which is all about positively shifting your mindset disclosing to potential partners in a way that truly connects you and ultimately finding the love that you want and deserve now you can check out the free ebook linked in the description below about having the talk and now onto the video I hope you enjoy it that you know herpes is the bucket that your sexual shame gets dumped into and that it's the sex it's the shame around sexuality and that like like that belief system that undergirdles like your whole free expression of I am a sexual being hear me roar I I believe in a holographic universe in a way that like when we can actually step into especially the things that are scary ...

1:23... from a new perspective then that solidifies that perspective in in a way that that nothing else can right it's the same kind of a thing that like if you have a an irrational fear of snakes let's say the best way to go through that and figure out that you're not going to die is go through exposure therapy right and gradually you actually it's not a thought process it's an actual experience of like it's telling your reptilian brain like you're not gonna die I got you right it's like it's it's also goes along with that whole re-parenting thing like you become your own loving parent like you're safe so to answer your question because that that isn't the number one question that comes up when do I disclose what I have come to over the years is that it's it can't be something where like okay after the third date or whatever it has to be a gut check on asking yourself the question do I trust this man with my vulnerability is it's not about okay I gotta admit to this horrible thing it's like oh this is actually something that is pretty close to my heart and I don't just want to go out there willy-nilly this is an important conversation right so because that's already there and because you already have like a a a relationship with him that hasn't been sexual I ...

2:58... I would say there's nothing wrong with actually like waiting until you're actually together and seeing what it's like there are so many things that happen when you are close to each other that like your pheromones and you know your energy together that it's so different when you're in person I know that especially I mean I don't know this because I'm a man but especially as a woman I would I would imagine that of course there's a whole lot more pressure of like oh I I want him to be pleased I want him to be happy with his decision to come down here and there's this undertone of sex that's gonna happen but you also need to balance that out with like taking care of your heart taking care of what you need to feel safe and open that way it's like you are taking care of yourself in creating a container that would like if sex is going to happen then you already have set the foundation for yourself to feel safe and and trusting of the space that you two are creating together the physical space that you two are creating together because clearly ...

4:14... you've created an energetic and emotional space together now it's like you need to actually meet in person to create a physical space together from there you can check in with yourself do do I now feel safe in his presence like another trend that I see a lot of people and this may not be you but a lot of people feel like I need to squelch my emotions or like not feel nervous I need to get to a point where I just feel like I got this I'm totally confident and that's great but like if what is authentic in the moment is like you're shaking a little bit and you know it's like oh okay like calling yourself out like god I feel a little nervous that that's a that's a beautifully connecting thing right but to as soon as possible like just to to to say hey I have something you know I wanted I want to share something important with you um you know back in 2003 I found out that I have herpes what do you know about it just keep it simple in that way so that he can be involved in the conversation and it doesn't feel like a stump speech and this is how I like I just love this as a holographic uh self-development tool for you like being selfish about this in the most healthy way where like ...

5:36... regardless of his response or reaction that success what success is isn't did he accept me or did he reject me success here is did I do it from a place of self-love and self-care this conversation can actually isn't a hurdle to jump over a wall to but it's actually the doorway into deeper intimacy and and possibly love I hope you got a lot out of that video and if you did please let me know please like comment and subscribe and keep an eye out for more videos just like this you