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Right, you actually can have that visceral feeling of slowing down time and having choice.
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That experiential feeling of being at that metaphorical fork in the road, right? Of like, "I can continue down this reactive path, the path where I'm following my reactions, or I can go down the other fork in the road of responding with awareness." You know, actually making a choice that's coming from spaciousness.
... Exactly, like having a goal, having a purpose, having clarity and making decisions from that place, as opposed to "I need to get my rocks off" or following those urges, you know, which we've talked about plenty of times before. But that is the crux of it, you know.
... And as you get better and better at it, it's almost like you're able to... and you've probably had this experience where once you have that moment where you've noticed that voice in your head and you just kind of have that spaciousness enough to have a little conversation with it, like, "Oh no, that's not actually true," or whatever that conversation is, you create more breathing room around it.
... So that the next time that it happens, it's almost like you're slowing down time. And it's almost like bullet time, like you're seeing these two possibilities coming at you with this fork in the road and this decision point, whereas before it would have just been like, "I'm just gonna go toward the urge." It doesn't actually feel like a decision because you're just reacting. But you're almost slowing down time to realize, "Oh, there is a choice here. I don't just have to go down this path just because I have an urge or whatever it is."
... Right, you actually can have that visceral feeling of slowing down time and having choice and making the most healthy choice, you know? That's everything. That's everything. That's living a fulfilling life.
... "I'll figure this out." I think that's the phrase you said, right? "I'll figure this out when the time comes." That is trusting yourself. You know, and that sounds like such a cliche thing of like, "Oh, just trust yourself, just trust yourself." But trusting yourself and saying, "Okay, if that worst-case scenario were to happen, I'll handle it, but right now I don't have to embroil myself in it as if it's actually happening." That lets you off the hook.
... If you can trust your future self to handle it, that means you don't have to worry about it right now. I mean, think of all that you have already accomplished while also having, I don't know, what would you say, 30% of your brain consumed with worry? Like, think of how much more efficient your engine, the engine of your internal machine, will run when you can just say, "I trust myself to figure it out if that happens. For right now, I'm going to focus on all this without the worry."
... You know what I mean? And when you enact those values, just like what we talked about, of when you disclose to a partner and you get that natural high of like, "Whoa, I just... yeah, that was my integrity giving me a natural endorphin hit of like, yeah, this is who I am."
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"If you can trust your future self to handle it, that means you don't have to worry about it right now. Think of all that you have already accomplished while also having 30% of your brain consumed with worry."
Here's the thing about worry: it disguises itself as preparation. Like if you just worry enough about worst-case scenarios, somehow you'll be ready for them. But worry doesn't prepare you for anything. It just eats up your bandwidth.
This coaching session is about a simple but powerful shift: trusting your future self to handle whatever comes. Not blindly, but based on evidence. You've already survived hard things. You've already handled moments you didn't think you could. When you can say "I'll figure it out when the time comes" and actually mean it, you free up all that mental energy that was being wasted on hypothetical disasters. That's not denial. That's trust. And it changes the way you move through your whole life.
