Changing your unhelpful thought patterns

0:00But you you look at what went wrong either in the past day the past year your whole life right and you look at that and you say needs work hi I'm adriel creator of the herpes opportunity which is all about positively shifting your mindset disclosing to potential partners in a way that truly connects you and ultimately finding the love that you want and deserve you can check out the free ebook linked in the description below about having the talk and now onto the video I hope you enjoy it remember this feeling of like oh my own self-judgment around being twice divorced and having herpes and whatever other self-judgments I have oh there it's not this universally like that's not how these are universally seen and felt and experienced everyone has their own perspective and and that can also allow you to use it as leverage to like let that self-judgment go too cause he doesn't give a so why should you give a about being twice divorced now I have another tool for you to see the the things that have gone wrong and not kind of be in denial of them but like ...

1:24... um not give them power it's a it's a it's a balancing act right because you you don't want to just push them away and ignore them you want to learn from them but you also don't want to get sucked into it emotionally and like beat yourself up and turn it into just another thing that I did wrong and and all that but you you look at what went wrong either in the past day the past year your whole life right and you look at that and you say needs work you just notice it oh that needs work without emotion you're just like a scientist you just noticed a data point oh you're looking at your graph oh there's a spike in that graph oh it's because that happened oh yeah my old pattern came up no not oh I fell into an old pattern again god I'm not learning anything I'm such an idiot blah blah whatever your own version of that is no oh I fell into an old pattern needs work right with us almost with a smile on your face like oh there's that pattern again it needs work right change your relationship to your problems and that they are it's like your triggers and your your your old patterns and whenever they come up they're you know I've said this before it's like they're pointing you toward your places of healing ...

2:43... you know they're they're pointing you toward the places that ironically need the most love but whenever patterns and all of that come up and triggers we're much more likely to give ourselves the opposite of the love that is needed to heal those wounds because we're judging ourselves I should know better it's like that just that just makes those patterns hang on that much more well I hope you got a lot out of that video and if you did please let me know please like comment and subscribe and keep an eye out for more videos just like this you