Building a context for herpes disclosure

0:00Having those kinds of conversations really gives you gets you clued in to what kind of a person is this right is it a person who can who's in touch with themselves who who can have a real conversation who can not only have a real conversation but can can kind of be present with me as I'm sharing something that's vulnerable hi I'm adriel creator of the herpes opportunity which is all about positively shifting your mindset disclosing to potential partners in a way that truly connects you and ultimately finding the love that you want and deserve and you can check out the free ebook linked in the description below about having the talk and now on to the video I hope you enjoy it disclosure becomes this unfolding as opposed to uh oh this woman could outright reject me or not well as you get to know whatever woman you're going to end up disclosing to there's going to be layers of vulnerability that are shown in that probably before you get to actually the the herpes talk right I mean that's part of like the unfolding of any relationship you know even in the first ...

1:21... few dates you're going to be talking about some real hey what was your childhood like you know like as I remember as a boy I was like terrified that I wasn't gonna be accepted by the cool kids in middle school right and I I want to know like what was what was your childhood like right and and like having those kinds of conversations really gives you gets you clued in to what kind of a person is this right is it a person who can who's in touch with themselves who who can have a real conversation who can not only have a real conversation but can can kind of be present with me as I'm sharing something that's vulnerable about my childhood about my shame when I was in middle school right house how someone talk like has that kind of conversation with you with compassion and empathy and and care that's that's an opening to having you start to realize oh wow this could be the kind of person that if I disclose to even if they say actually I don't wanna I don't wanna take that risk they're not gonna be an absolutely cruel human being to me right they're gonna they're gonna appreciate me and appreciate the vulnerability that this takes right so you're you're already projecting yourself into like the moment of disclosure but you're not giving yourself the the inside information ...

2:50... of like oh wait by the time I get to disclosure there's going to be a whole lot that has been a lot of connection that has already happened and we'll know each other on a deeper level already right and let's put it in context too right when you can take the the shame and the stigma out of herpes yeah it is something important that you need to tell people that you're going to have have sex with but when it comes down to it it's just like anything that you know you wouldn't walk up to a girl and be like hey could I buy you a drink hey I have really bad credit card debt I mean she'd be like yeah I'll take that drink and why are you telling me about your your debt like you know like oh yeah my my hey could I get you a drink yeah my mom and dad split up when I was 10 and it was really horrific it's just it's just like there's layers of vulnerability that you get to in any sort of relationship well I hope you got a lot out of that video and if you did please let me know please like comment and subscribe and keep an eye out for more videos just like this you