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After you come out of a trough in your life, you know, everything does seem brighter.
Hi, I'm Adrial, creator of the Herpes Opportunity.
Yeah, you needed to experience, like we've said before, those disclosure moments where there was a chance that if you disclose, they could look at you with this disgusted look and be like, "I no longer want to be friends with you." You know, there was the possibility that that could have happened, right? But you needed to experience saying these words out loud, looking at your friends in the eyes and realizing, "Wow, they still not only love me and accept me, but they love me even more." Right? It's like you needed to experience that in reality so that that worst-case scenario in your mind kind of dissipated a little more.
... Yeah, you were in the middle of Niagara Falls, you know, just getting this barrage of intensity and overwhelm and "Why am I even here? Life is not worth living," you know, whatever was there. And it was just overwhelming. And it's like Niagara Falls has gone to a trickle and you're like, "Oh, okay, well, it's still there, but it's not the thing that is taking all my attention, that is just like drinking from a fire hose here." It's like you can tend to it in an easier way. You have more of the tools at your disposal. You have processed all of that intensity.
... And here's the other thing, is that you also have this perspective from bouncing back too. There's this natural tendency of like after you come out of a trough in your life, everything does seem brighter. You know, you're like, "Wait, I was in the gutters for a few months there, and even now, normal life is like extraordinary." You know, because you have this to compare it to. Before, this was just baseline. Now you have like, "Oh, this feels very different," even though it's just normal life. It's like, "No, there's so much beauty here because I've felt the supposed absence of that beauty in my life."
... Yeah, right. I mean, I think what you're referring to is the idea of resiliency more than anything, right? It's not that... you know, because you're telling me that you're in a good spot right now. Like, I hope things don't change and then you might feel sad again. It's like, it's inevitable. We're gonna go through this kind of a thing in life. And it's not about saying, "Okay, I found myself again and I'm never going to fall back into any sort of ravine ever again." That's a totally unrealistic expectation.
... But what is more empowering even is that you're developing the skillset and the tools to be able to bounce back, to be able to climb back out of that ravine again. You know, you're developing those climbing muscles to climb back out and find that path.
... Yeah, right. So resiliency, the bouncing back. And even if you find yourself in a ravine again, to not expect that you should bounce back quicker. But that's all part of the acceptance process of like, "Oh, I'm in a ravine again. Okay. Let me just connect to reality here. Here are the facts. All right, so from here, what's my next step?" And then you'll find your way out of the ravine. But you're not going to throw yourself a pity party as quickly.
... I hope you got a lot out of that video. And if you did, please let me know. Please like, comment, and subscribe, and keep an eye out for more videos just like this.
"After you come out of a trough in your life, everything does seem brighter ... Even normal life feels extraordinary because you have something to compare it to."
There's this funny thing that happens after you've been through hell: regular life starts looking beautiful. Not because anything changed, but because you did. You have a new frame of reference. Where "normal" used to be baseline, now it feels like a gift.
This coaching session is about resilience, but not the "never fall down again" kind. That's an unrealistic expectation. It's more about developing the climbing muscles to get yourself out of the ravine when (not if) you find yourself in one again. The goal isn't to avoid hard times. It's to know, deep in your bones, that you can bounce back from them. And each time you do, you come back with a little more appreciation for the beauty that was always there.
