Suffering connects us

0:00People who have been through suffering they see each other and it's like oh I recognize you you know and that's beautiful hi I'm adriel creator of the herpes opportunity which is all about positively shifting your mindset disclosing to potential partners in a way that truly connects you and ultimately finding the love that you want and deserve and you can check out the free ebook linked in the description below about having the talk and now onto the video I hope you enjoy it yeah I mean I I always uh use the metaphor of like a magnet right that when when you're vulnerable in this way and it's not really about herpes it's obviously the deeper level of like being vulnerable about being a human being being a vulnerable being vulnerable about your humanity that all of us share right and it can either attract people more to you that vulnerability or it can repel depending on which side of the magnet right and so having this kind of truth that you're disclosing it it has more of a kind of extreme effect on relationships right and when we can see that for what it is ...

1:28... as opposed to oh someone was just repelled therefore I'm taking that personally as I am less than everything shifts right then we can say oh right what if there is something to this magnetism thing of the people who are drawn more to me are going to be more on my level not that I don't know like a hierarchical sense like I'm now above other people but that you're you're just in a different plane of existence like oh right like you get me as a friend who I just disclosed to and most likely the positive responses that you get from disclosing to especially friends and family are the people who have also been through in their lives so they get it they're like okay I don't have herpes but I went through this or I went through an abortion or I went through my mom dying when I was five like I know I know that flavor of pain and suffering and and that oh my god I get chills every time because it's like that connects us on a deeper human level and what if anything is this life about than that right of actually ...

2:49... looking in someone else's eyes and being like here I am you know like I'm gonna open my rib cage up and just like show you my heart right and like and and then for them to look at your heart and be like oh yeah yeah I got one of those too and it's like oh I thought you were gonna stab me but instead you like held my heart and it's like oh my god like what a high that is right so when we can recognize that as a true filter you know to be like yeah sometimes it's going to hurt because someone is you know might not see that but it just means that we're on a different plane it's almost like in the hollywood movies where it's like you know whenever there's that ghost the ghost movie not the horror movies but like the I see I see dead people movies it's like you can see on a different plane most people don't see ghosts certain people are like oh yeah I can see on a different plane like it's a different level of existence where through suffering they see each other and it's like oh I recognize you you know and that's beautiful that's the opportunity when we can kind of see beyond the ouch you just rejected me you get to experience this new plane of existence but it's because of the ...

4:11... meat tenderizer that suffering creates right it's like we build up this persona or we build up these walls around us to keep us safe and it's only natural but sometimes something comes along in people's lives that just smashes the wall and you're just like what the that was a pretty good wall like I had a good wall going right and you just came along and just burned it to the ground right and like how dare you but whoa now I'm like raw like I don't have that exoskeleton right of like being like an insect that like has this exoskeleton and all of a sudden the exoskeleton gets peeled back and they're totally raw to the world right they're truly vulnerable but they can feel the wind on their raw skin unlike they have ever felt before right right so it's there's this sense of just like it makes you more sensitive to the world like the suffering actually tenderizes your heart and breaks it open to the point where you can actually feel deeper than you would have been able to otherwise I hope you got a lot out of that video and if you ...

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