"People who have been through suffering see each other, they recognize each other. And that's beautiful."
Being vulnerable about our humanity (that under-the-surface stuff that all of us humans share, whether or not we have herpes) can either attract or repel. Much like a magnet, sharing our vulnerability has a polarizing effect depending on our unique connection with someone else. What repels some will magnetize others. When we can take it less personally if someone is repelled by us sharing ourselves and our truth, we become more free to find those who are truly magnetized by it.