Turning suffering into courage and practicing embodied self-acceptance

0:00What if a lot of the suffering was actually all of the stuff that you're not trying to burn itself off so that you could find out what's what's actually underneath it hi I'm adriel creator of the herpes opportunity which is all about positively shifting your mindset disclosing to potential partners in a way that truly connects you and ultimately finding the love that you want and deserve now you can check out the free ebook linked in the description below about having the talk and now onto the video I hope you enjoy it because only when we suffer to the point where it's actually more comfortable to be courageous than it is to sit in our own self-pity and aloneness do we actually do something about it so that's where pain can actually be a really good motivator if we just keep suffering and we stay in pain that eventually the pain like god it'll it'll really spur us into taking the action that we need so I've suffered for a few years before I was like wait a minute I don't want to do this anymore it was like it was like a ...

1:24... scent it wasn't just like I'm gonna be courageous like man I don't I don't really have any other choice like I I ha I have to live my life so it's a decision that you make it's not something that we're inherently like yeah that person's courageous and that person's not it's just it's something that that shows up in the face of enough pain and suffering that we're we're willing to make that choice it's talking about the the idea that that's suffering and that that doesn't sometimes it feel like lit like like like a burning like you're sitting in hot lava like it's this burning sensation of just like oh my god this sucks I took some time off and I I wanted to like go deep into meditation and I sat in meditation for like two hours without moving a muscle and I wanted to see what it was like to just be in in my body to to see what showed up in that in that meditation it was like I was confronted with all of these demons of my mind and as I was confronted with these demons it was like I felt ...

2:52... all of these all of these associations and beliefs kind of burning off of me evaporating like they're like they're like their steam and when I was just sitting with it without moving I was sitting in the lava and it was like I was transformed because I was sitting in the pain of it as opposed to running away from it so I offer that to you because it's like it's a powerful reframe to say what if a lot of the suffering was actually all of the stuff that you're not trying to burn itself off so that you could find out what's what's actually underneath it I mean our deepest suffering cracks us open to the reality it cracks us open to like our true centers that kind of seep out like a like a like a caramel an ooey caramel center right when when pain and suffering crack through the hard candy shells of our lives then it's like there's something that's that's more ooey gooey that gets to like seep out that is that is the epitome of self-care and actually like doing the things that that feel good and and are good for us ...

4:13... to to do for ourselves that's self-compassion and especially when it comes to sitting down eyes closed for a for even 20 minutes that's having us be with ourselves and if ironically if we're going through pain and suffering that means being with pain and suffering unless we close our eyes and just like fake it to ourselves like yeah I'm meditating but really I'm just like thinking about my to-do list right there are all ways there are all sorts of ways to trick ourselves into saying yeah I've meditated my 20 minutes today but how often do we really like sit down and just like whatever shows up that's okay I'm gonna welcome whatever shows up whatever thoughts whatever feelings I'm gonna welcome it all I'm gonna notice it all there is a natural aversion to that as human beings like our our our human our human doesn't want to experience those things our spirit does our spirit wants to like just hold all of it in one big bear hug and say all of it is good nothing is wrong with you at all sadness shows up beautiful I don't have any preference I just want to ...

5:37... I just want to know you right that's what meditation can be for us to sit down and just know ourselves what is it like to be me right now oh wow there's a lot coming up all that shows up is like oh wow I'm a human being this is fascinating in meditation it's like it's like stripping everything out and just being with what's here there's there are all these layers that come up that just by sitting with yourself and noticing any tension in your body and letting go of that tension that is the embodiment of self-acceptance it's just like hey I'm relaxing right now even as these thoughts of like whatever come into my head oh I'm noticing myself tensing up not wanting to accept what's coming oh okay yeah I'm relaxing yeah it's okay there's this there's this relationship that develops where I am parenting myself right it's almost like a scared child like there's a there's this scared child in us that is afraid of having nightmares and we as our own parents get to say it's okay they're just they're just nightmares they're not real I'm just I'm gonna I'm gonna protect ...

7:03... you I'm gonna keep you safe I'm gonna love you to me that's what meditation is really about is practicing that self-compassion not even in like a vocal way or like saying those things in our in our heads but just by sitting there silently with ourselves with no judgment ultimate compassion that is the experience of of self-love well I hope you got a lot out of that video and if you did please let me know please like comment and subscribe and keep an eye out for more videos just like this you