What if my partner gets herpes?

0:00Yeah so key so put it in perspective like you you you are in you're you are way more in control about the perspective you choose to take than you may think hi I'm adriel creator of the herpes opportunity which is all about positively shifting your mindset disclosing to potential partners in a way that truly connects you and ultimately finding the love that you want and deserve now you can check out the free ebook linked in the description below about having the talk and now onto the video I hope you enjoy it we can let's put ourselves in that world that worst case scenario okay what if he gets it okay you are looking at that in through the same lens as how you got herpes which wasn't through a loving relationship it was quite the opposite so herpes to you means deception it means lying it means not being treated fairly it means all ...

1:17... of those things and more right if you were to get herpes in a loving relationship it's a very different experience it's not like yay okay but it's not tied to all that other stuff of like it makes it that much heavier because it's like oh I got cheated on or I got you know all these things that you know I had to go through of like oh yeah I got cheated on and then and I got herpes so it's like it's tied to this really negative thing right he's he's as a grown-ass man and you get to trust that he is a grown-ass man making his decision on yes I will take this risk this is a worthwhile risk to me and of course I don't want it nobody wants herpes but I may I'm taking this risk because I care about you and I want to be in a relationship with you that's what you get to trust and that's part of what you get to like you use that to let go of your own worry about how this is going to you know change his life for the worst right like a a grown person if they if they get if they get herpes after a partner discloses to them and gives them all that information and they choose to get in a relationship with them and they end up getting herpes ...

2:38... and they they blame their partner for that that's not okay right you know both of you in partnership have an equal kind of an equal uh responsibility to like be careful and also know that if it happens then damn it whoops you know like I I wish it wouldn't have happened but it happened right and that's the distinction that I really want you to see is you're seeing it from your perspective as if he would be getting herpes from a similarly deceitful and dishonest and horrible person that you got herpes from and that's not the case yeah so key so put it in perspective like you you you are in you're you are way more in control about the perspective you choose to take than you may think by default your perspective is going to be whatever your default perspective is of like wrapping it in you know negativity and oh my god what if I ruin his life it's going to be your responsibility to notice that you've fallen into that rut and then pull yourself out of it switch gears right and it's it's only it's only through repetition right like we've talked ...

4:02... about before but this is just a new kind of a a new foray but like with awareness you're going to notice that you're in that old rut you're going to notice that it's not giving you the connection with your partner that you want so therefore you get to then make a different choice and then just repeat that over and over again until you make that the new habit right and and that's why I was just talking to a client yesterday about this of like how the situations where you know the the fear gets triggered or the shame gets triggered or whatever like if we're about to be intimate with our partner and it's like the times when we when we want to run away from it because it's like it's really intense or even starting to get more intense or we're like let me look at my phone or let me distract myself or something those are the biggest opportunities to be like oh wow this is starting to feel like oh okay something's coming up those are the opportunities to relax out of that old pattern and not give it fuel yeah exactly and ...

5:27... also the way to counteract that worry is to have good sexual experiences right I hope you got a lot out of that video and if you did please let me know please like comment and subscribe and keep an eye out for more videos just like this you