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Giving birth with herpes (HSV-2)

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peterkCommunity Member

Anybody here know of anybody that had to get a c-section because of herpes?

WCSDancer2010Community Member

Me - but only because the (&^%#$&* doctor scared me into it - at the time (1986) Acyclovir was just coming out (but I didn't know about it) and I was living in the UK. I was assigned to an OBGYN by my family Dr in a nearby hospital whose theory was that you HAD to have a 'section if you were H positive. That was my first experience of the H stigma. I went through it because I didn't know better but I felt something wasn't right so afterwards I researched (not easy in the times before the internet!) and found out I could have had a natural birth because I wasn't having an OB.

I had to pitch a fit with the Family Dr to get reassigned to a different Dr (yeah - that's one of the things they don't tell you about a National Health Service - you don't have much choice in who you go to). The second guy finishes my first exam and says "Shame a strapping great lass like you having a Cesarean the first time around!" Uh - yeah - I admit it, I have breeders hips :p . Anyway, I managed to have a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) for the second. Never was offered acyclovir by either even tho it was being used in some areas then.

Nowadays they generally put women right on the Acyclovir for the last month of pregnancy to prevent the OB's so they can have a normal delivery.

AikeaCommunity Member

I had two amazing drug free natural births whilst also having HSV2. It was never even suggested by the midwife that I would need a cesarean. My fears were much higher than any of the medical professions

DamagedLotusCommunity Member

@aikea I'm really glad to hear you had a drug free natural birth. I don't have children (hopefully one day) but always said I wanted to try a natural birth. It was so depressing when I got diagnose with HSV2 thinking I wouldn't be able to experience a natural or vaginal birth out of fear that I would pass it on.

victoriaxxxCommunity Member

My mom had to have a C-section because of it.. My mom had a really bad OB though when she was getting ready to deliver me.. I want to deliver naturally.. COMPLETELY NATURAL AND DRUG FREE. :D

WCSDancer2010Community Member

Nowdays they put you on acyclovir for the last month so you have the best chance to not have an OB when you go into labor... they've done it for over 20 years and there have been no issues with the baby and the meds.... def one time it's worth taking them :)

victoriaxxxCommunity Member

My friend said she doesn't have any OB's, but they are putting her on Acyclovir the last 2 months so that she doesn't have a potential one and so she can have a natural birth.

WCSDancer2010Community Member

That is the current protocol...tho most only put them on for the last month -either way even tho I am not pill crazy I would do it if I was having a baby so I could protect the baby from shedding....

bookworm21Community Member

Maybe I'm just being really over cautious, but as soon as I found out my status I pretty much decided I wanted c-sections to cut out any risk at all. The whole natural birth thing never really appeal to me haha. I try to eat naturally and live better, but I hate pain. :D

victoriaxxxCommunity Member

Yeah. That's why I have started working out and have been working on everything I need to do to get ready for an all natural birth.. because I dont even want an epidural. I want to have the muscles ready, when I do have kids.

WCSDancer2010Community Member

Bookworm...

Having had a cesarean and a natural birth, I'll tell you... if you hate pain, go for vaginal birth... honest!

1) If you don't use ANY meds, you will, on average, have to endure the increasing discomfort and then pain for maybe 12-24 hrs. Remember with a Cesarean you have had your stomach muscles and your uterus cut open. You have a lot of soft, flabby skin that pulls on the stitches. It took me about 10 days to feel like a human again after my 'section. It took me about 24 hrs after the natural birth.

2) Much as I HATE the trend, there are epidurals for the pain-phobic. Personally, I feel it's a cop-out for many.... IMO, as a woman, we are MUCH stronger than we realize and this is one place you can prove that strength to yourself. Going through labor is almost a rite of passage ... it makes you appreciate your strength and all of a sudden it's over and you have this wonderful being placed in your arms and the labor connects you in a different way (not necessarily better).

So think carefully before you opt automatically for a Cesarean. It's not all it cut out to be... so to speak :p

bookworm21Community Member

Did it take you 24 hours or years? Lol. :D

I'm still thinking about it. IF I ever get to have kids of my own, which I'm currently questioning :/ I'll probably decide at the last minute. I'm more worried about my baby possibly getting something (even with the meds it's not 100% sure it won't happen and my odds are awful haha) than the pain of my own.

AikeaCommunity Member

Maybe we are backwards in NZ as noone suggested I take anything the last two months.

Although with my second it was the middle of summer and i was 9 months pregnant. I started getting contractions and then noticed that I had a heat rash. I was absolutely terrified that it was herpes and I think this caused my contractions to stop. They began again the next morning once I was calm and had realised it was just a heat rash.

I'm sure I read somewhere its most dangerous if its your first outbreak when you are pregnant.

WCSDancer2010Community Member

LOL - SNAP... yeah - to some extent the labor NEVER ends :)

bookworm21Community Member

Hahahaha I was going to say…. 24 years is a LONG time to feel like you're in labor….

WCSDancer2010Community Member

I'm sure I read somewhere its most dangerous if its your first outbreak when you are pregnant.

That is one train of thought and it makes sense because you are more likely to have OB's anyway in the first year and being stressed by pregnancy won't help the situation..

AikeaCommunity Member

Hmm. I had really frequent outbreaks before I got pregnant and they seemed to stop for my whole pregnancy.

I'd love to see more research on this.

WCSDancer2010Community Member

Oh heck - just saw what you were referring to - gonna go fix that now 8-}

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