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Herpes and Pregnancy: Real Conversations

If you're pregnant and have herpes (or you're thinking about getting pregnant and have herpes), I know your mind is probably racing. The fears are real, and I'm not going to pretend they aren't. But here's what I want you to know before you read anything else: millions of women with herpes have healthy pregnancies and healthy babies every single year. This is not the crisis your anxiety is telling you it is.

These conversations from the now-sunset Herpes Opportunity forums are from women who were exactly where you are: pregnant and scared, trying to conceive and worried, or already moms who wanted to share what they'd learned. They asked their doctors the hard questions, they navigated the medical decisions, and they came back to tell the community how it went. Their experiences are practical, honest, and deeply reassuring.

Your doctor is your best medical resource. But sometimes you just need to hear from someone who's been through it. That's what these stories are for.

Real conversations from the Herpes Opportunity community. For over 13 years, the H Opp forums were a safe space where thousands of people shared their most vulnerable moments. The forums have since sunset, but these stories live on.

Need help. I have herpes and I'm pregnant

Pregnant and panicking about herpes, she reaches out for help. The community combines real experience with medical facts to calm her fears and help her advocate for herself with her doctor.

24 posts in conversation

Giving birth with herpes (HSV-2)

What's giving birth with herpes actually like? Experienced moms share their stories, from C-sections to vaginal deliveries, cutting through the fear with firsthand knowledge.

18 posts in conversation

Children

A broader conversation about herpes and having children. Couples share how they navigated family planning, pregnancy fears, and the reality that herpes and healthy babies are completely compatible.

23 posts in conversation

My Story: Herpes and pregnancy all in one day

Diagnosed with herpes and finding out she's pregnant all in the same day. Her story is a reminder that even the most overwhelming moments can lead to beautiful outcomes.

7 posts in conversation

Married 7 years. 2 kids. Terrified of spreading to baby!!!!

Married 7 years with 2 kids, she's terrified of spreading herpes to her baby. The community walks her through the actual risks (spoiler: they're very low) and helps her breathe again.

9 posts in conversation

its been 4 years we have a baby I have herpes

Four years into a relationship with a baby, she shares what living with herpes in a family looks like. The thread normalizes what so many parents experience but don't talk about.

22 posts in conversation

Frequently asked questions

Can I have a healthy pregnancy with herpes?+
Yes. The vast majority of women with herpes have completely healthy pregnancies and deliver healthy babies. Your doctor will likely recommend suppressive antiviral therapy in the last weeks of pregnancy to reduce the chance of an outbreak at delivery. If there's no active outbreak at delivery, vaginal birth is typically safe.
What are the risks of herpes during pregnancy?+
The biggest risk is a first-time herpes outbreak near delivery, which is rare. For women who've had herpes before pregnancy, the risk of transmission to the baby during delivery is very low (under 1% with suppressive therapy and no active outbreak). Your doctor will work with you on a plan.
Should I have a C-section if I have herpes?+
Not necessarily. A C-section is typically only recommended if you have an active herpes outbreak at the time of delivery. If there's no outbreak, vaginal delivery is considered safe. Many women in our community delivered vaginally without any issues. Your OB/GYN will help you make the best decision for your specific situation.

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