"All you need to memorize is this simple structure. Everything within each steps of this structure is ad-libbed, in-the-moment. Trust your heart, translate your heart into words. You got this."
How to create a context for disclosure and how to structure the conversation in a structured — not scripted — way that allows you to feel empowered no matter the outcome. Going into a herpes talk with a memorized soliloquy disconnects us from the moment. Memorize only these 4 steps, then allow yourself to be in the moment for the rest. Trust that you will know what to say when you're actually looking in their eyes, feeling what is right there to be felt. Then translate those feelings into words. That is always a more connecting conversation than regurgitating lines that you've practiced in front of a mirror.