Transform your guilt into something beneficial

0:00Work with what's coming up as guilt and like mold it into something more beneficial hi I'm adriel creator of the herpes opportunity which is all about positively shifting your mindset disclosing to potential partners in a way that truly connects you and ultimately finding the love that you want and deserve now you can check out the free ebook linked in the description below about having the talk and now onto the video I hope you enjoy it or you're earning it's not all the bad stuff it's also the yearning like you really wanted this relationship as well so you were that was that's the other side of it right so it's not all this bad stuff that like oh why was I such a bad person it was like oh I wanted this really bad too and I wanted it so bad that I kind of muddied up my integrity a little bit or muddied up like who I know myself to be and that's where the guilt is coming from so having some compassion for that is really helpful too um what I'm what I'm hearing is that you know the kind of similar to ...

1:23... what we were talking about last time of you know that the the fear of anticipating maybe it's not the thousand different forks in the road right now but it's like that worst case fork in the road you know and and that you're that you're really dwelling in that place and I get it I get you know it's it's the you know expect the best plan for the worst you know um but that if it if it is really like taking you off your path like if it's taking you away from work if it's not allowing you to be present then there's a there's a point of diminishing returns in that planning for the worst right it's it's that you've I I have a sense that you've thought about it enough right and and that and that this goes back to what we were talking about last time of even if it's a 50 50 which it's not if there's a 50 chance that you're gonna go down worst case scenario you owe it to yourself to also like inhabit the other potential that that could also not happen and for what it's worth in ...

2:48... all these these kinds of conversations that I've had of like people just like really worried about what their partner is going to do around whatever 90 of the time it is 95 of the time it's not even close to worst case scenario it's not to say that this might be that five percent but like it's just this unfair balancing act that we give ourselves in these kind of moments of like even though it's a five percent chance we dwell in it 95 percent of the time work with what's coming up as guilt and like mold it into something more beneficial right where you're not beating yourself up over it but that like if we look at it from a different angle what's showing up as guilt is really your integrity being like what the [ __ ] we could have done better from that angle then you can kind of like settle back into like okay yeah this is this was a wake-up call this this is a this is a reminder that yes indeed I do have integrity I knew it all along but like it was tested right and and yes I may ...

4:08... have stumbled and like you didn't fail the test right you got a different data point where you're like oh whoops I really wanted it like all the things we talked about last time I really wanted this relationship I was willing to kind of be in in denial a little bit even though I was hearing a whisper and I was swatting that away a little bit because I wanted something so bad so it's good ultimately in the long run if we zoom out and we look at this this whole thing from bird's eye view it's good that your integrity is intact unfortunately the integrity being intact is bringing up a lot of guilt but it means that the system is working I hope you got a lot out of that video and if you did please let me know please like comment and subscribe and keep an eye out for more videos just like this you