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Herpes isn't the thing that is like going to knock you down it's the thing that actually is is waking you up into recognizing that you held the power the whole time hi I'm adriel creator of the herpes opportunity which is all about positively shifting your mindset disclosing to potential partners in a way that truly connects you and ultimately finding the love that you want and deserve you can check out the free ebook linked in the description below about having the talk and now onto the video I hope you enjoy it to work with that that inner voice and that that's like the the worst case scenario voice that's always like hellfire and brimstone and you're horrible and all of this bad stuff and then when you actually start to re-enter life and to get the reality of the situation of like oh people don't judge me like I judge me I remember like those those kinds of moments for me were like were like a mind [ __ ] right because so much of the time I did the the the kind of um you know segregating myself from society for a while ...
... and like when I first got it I was I just had so many judgments about people with stds so I I spent so long in my own world seeped in my own hydrochloric acid juices of just like shamey judging myself that once I finally had the courage to see if the world would reject me then I actually came to find that like it's so it's actually really rare to be judged so harshly that I had like as I had been judging myself and and it was like that was the mind [ __ ] like the reality of the situation was never as bad as I was making it up to be or the stigma making it up to be um the societal judgments and everything the thing about that voice is that it's it's trying to keep us safe you know it's like even though it's harshly criticizing us and trying to make us feel like [ __ ] all the time it's it's doing that so that we don't go outside of our comfort zone it's trying to keep us within our comfort zone so that we don't get rejected so that we don't ...
... take a chance so that our heart never gets hurt and it's ironic because it's it's care for us is almost like a like a helicopter parent right like no no don't do that no don't do that you're not going to be able to it can be overwhelming if we if we look at it from the macro lens and we're looking at it for the rest of our lives just break it down into bite-sized chunks and we're like you know what the next time that that voice comes up I'm gonna I'm gonna like relate to it in a new way just that one time right and then if you're able to do that you get a little bit of that rocket fuel of like oh I was able to do do it that one time even if you didn't completely turn it around and be like wow like success you you know the whole perfectionist thing you get to let go of that and say success isn't going from like one like the south pole to the north pole success is taking that one step right when I've when I actually did something that was different against my pattern against my really deeply ingrained pattern that is [ __ ] success like I went against a childhood like deeply ingrained pattern [ __ ] go me it's it's in that that you get the rocket fuel ...
... to then take on the next time that it comes up with greater enthusiasm or not even enthusiasm just like oh I can do that hope one of my favorite things to do uh for myself is to when I when I notice when I'm aware of the voice I laugh out loud or at least smile if I'm like in public internally like I smile and say oh there you are right just that it's like we're trying to um it's like the voice wants it to feel to seem like it's you right so it's like so it's like uh what's the what's the analogy that's coming up I'm seeing the visual but it's like it's like if you had a if you had like a perfectly level ground right but you're trying and you had like some some some uh plate rocks under the ground right and you had to go under each one of them and kind of pry them up so that they're they seem like they're part of the ground but they're just just underneath the ground and it's the same level as the ground but it's like you gotta get underneath those things ...
... with a little bit of leverage and pry them up to be like wait this isn't the ground this was just something that is trying to like make it seem like it's me it's like you're anything that you can do to create that distance of this is me and that is that is helpful so just laughing and being like and noticing the voice that makes it that makes you understand it as a separate entity in a way like it it sounds a little weird but I I almost I almost like to think of it like a like a like a something separate like inhabiting my being like I'm like whoa like I need to go to a witch doctor or something to get it out like whoa this is this is just something there's something different that is that isn't me like I know I know who I am I know my heart and anything that is not love anything that is fear anything that is like that makes my stomach turn or my heart sink that's not me right so when I can laugh and have some sort of a different response to it then that gets me into that mode of being centered in who I truly am into my heart and into my like you know your sense of humor is really tied to your heart when you can be jovial and ...
... just like things tend to slide off your back more from that new vantage point when you laugh at it like oh wow I just noticed that then you can start to play around with it and start to see it as not this terrifying like horror movie creature that is bent on your destruction it's trying to be this big evil creature but it's like when you really get the distance from it it's like oh that's cute it's trying to convince me that I'm a piece of [ __ ] that is so cute because like I I like to think of it in terms of there there are different aspects of our being and there's the so there's the you know that that voice that is you know trying to convince us of of our shittiness and then there's the inner child like our innocence our heart and then there's the like our higher self right our heart like there are all sorts of different metaphors for it but like us in our empowered true selves right without all the baggage right and how all of those things hold hands for me is that my higher self like my true my true self my heart is the thing that holds my inner child right it's it's kind of like self-parenting right that when my inner child is scared or whatever like I get to be that nurturing ...
... parent maybe that nurturing parent that I never had but that I get too self-parent in that way like okay this is what I never got and I get to give this to myself and then the shitty voice is actually keeping us vigilant and keeping us aware it is a worthy adversary right and if I didn't have that and of course we wish that we didn't have that but it's there it's there in all of us and all human beings that it keeps us alert so that we don't fall off the horse right and ironically the more critical that our voice can be the more it can actually snap us into awareness because the more subtle it is the more I could just oh that's just in the back of my head but when it's like you are a piece of [ __ ] you're like whoa it actually creates that dichotomy that it's like black and white there's not as much gray area it's like I am this and that is that right and it keeps us it keeps us mentally and and like our awareness muscles strong the reason why teams get better is ...
... because they play other teams that are better than them or and they keep on kind of one-upping and they keep getting better and better without that kind of healthy adversarial kind of thing these teams wouldn't practice and get better and so it's like this voice is actually calling you to greatness ironically when you when you don't fall into the trap of saying that that voice is actually saying the truth right and it's things like these that that are those defining moments where it can like wake us up out of the doldrum and actually start to to help us to recognize that there's more right there's more here and it's not that like herpes isn't the thing that is like going to knock you down it's the thing that actually is is waking you up into recognizing that you held the power the whole time that's why I call it the opportunity right because it's like a lot of people laugh about like oh it's an opportunity it's not about the herpes it's about you being your opportunity well I hope you got a lot out of that video and if you did please let me know please like comment and subscribe and keep an eye out for more videos just like this you
"Herpes isn't the thing that is going to knock you down; it's the thing that may wake you up into recognizing that you held the power the whole time."
Eventually, the reality of the situation sinks in: Others don't judge you like you judge you. Once you have the courage to check your assumptions of whether or not the world will judge you, you may just be in for a pleasant surprise. The reality of our situation is rarely as bad as we make it up to be in our heads. Freedom is being able to recognize it and not let it hoodwink you.
P.S. This video is part of the free "inside coaching" series.
