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I had an interesting email exchange with someone (whose name is withheld to protect the innocent — let's call this person "Pat") about this whole herpes thing.
Pat emails me directly:
"Whats the cure? Or u dont really have one?"
I email Pat back:
"I understand the desperation. I went through the same thing. Are you under the impression I'm offering a physical cure for herpes? I'm not. But a physical cure isn't what's needed here. What the Herpes Opportunity is all about is realizing what stories you're making up about what having herpes means. It's a cure for all those horrible thoughts you're making up about yourself."
Pat replies:
"What's the point of that? I want a real cure."
This has me feeling sad about the numerous people who might feel the same way. If there is no physical cure, then there's no opportunity to be happy, to be in love with your life. Do you see the horribly self-destructive belief in that? This can cause so much pain and suffering. And you know what? This belief actually creates this reality, of being alone, of being sad. Waiting for some hope of happiness at some point in the future. But not now.
So what is the point of thinking this way if there's no cure for herpes? I'd love to hear what you think ...
Even if there is no cure, no one should give up hope of happiness. I mean this won't kill you. I think the saying goes, whatever doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. I truly believe this. I mean don't get me wrong, it is an extremely hard situation to get through(I still have my up and down days, since this is fairly new to me) but you can't give up hope, in my opinion. I mean what is the other option? Be sad and lonely?!?!? F that noise!( sorry for the "language") I guess you can call me naive or whatever you want, but I don't want to be alone. And being positive is all I have at the moment. I know I will find someone who truly does love me, and will want to be with me regardless of herpes. But it may take time before that actually happens, which sucks... But anything worth working for, is worth having AND keeping. I just have to keep telling myself that there are good people (women in my case) out there, and I think someone will look past a skin condinition to be with me. Confidence is everything, even though I struggle with it daily. I KNOW I am a good person, and true love will find me in the end. This my outlook on life anyways.



