"If we have judged 'those dirty people with STDs' before, then when we get herpes, we become one of those people who we have been judging the whole time, so the judgment turns itself back on us."
One of the most important, relevant and core elements to unearth is how you hold H as a concept in your life. Who do you think you are as someone who has herpes? What does it mean about you? What deep beliefs are knotted up in that self-concept for you? (Hint: Your biggest triggers hold your biggest opportunities for healing.)