Day 1:

My girlfriend and I broke up

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Alright so this is the first first video of a series hopefully that I want to commit to doing every day and why it's important to me is that I want to remind myself that that life is worth feeling my my challenge has been shutting down to life and what I'm realizing is that it's worth it to feel everything in life the joy the excitement of course and then the the pain and the sadness and that there's beauty and all of that and there's a part of me that rejects that and shuts it off and I want to remind myself that feeling is he in fact my feet affirmation I feel a little bit shy about ...

... saying that I'm using affirmations who look like you know the whole Stuart Smalley thing and I'm good enough and strong enough and gosh darn it people like me by the way I'm in beautiful nature I want to share this with you yeah so how could you not be inspired around here it's insane it's beautiful and also I want these videos to be accountability for myself to remind myself that I'm I'm connected to a larger community of people in those times where I feel completely alone like I want to actually remind myself and remember that I'm not alone that that I can reach out to people who care about me because just recently just recently my ...

... girlfriend and I broke up but it was the most beautiful and heartfelt breakups I mean this is the this is the woman first woman that I've ever really loved and felt truly loved by and there's like this bittersweet like melancholy feeling and even now I'm like I'm feeling so this is like a reminder that when I'm feeling like I'm alone and especially like alone with herpes and that no one's going to accept me and all of those thoughts that go running through my mind I can be reminded in general like beyond the herpes like that I am loved like her and I still love each other I greatly deeply and it's it feels so good ...

... to actually have I was about to say amical breakup I'm an amicable breakup but it's there's a loving heart felt breakup and a mature and connected break up where we still are going to be in each other's lives to support each other and love each other as friends and it just feels really good like it feels like I just feel honored so I could keep talking on this video for a long time but I just wanted to set that up this is my first day of going out and taking the first hour of my day to ground myself in myself and remind myself of what's important in practice gratitude and practice really like seeing my life as I want it to be so I can be more intentional around it and so I can give as much as possible and be wide open to receiving as much as possible too because that's what this life ...

... is all about and I want this to be a constant reminder of that for the first hour of the day to be that so thanks for being with me on this ride

Last week, my girlfriend and I decided to go our separate ways. It’s been the most loving relationship I’ve ever experienced. And I was so afraid to let it go (even though we both knew it was time). All of the fearful assumptions about breaking up ended up not being the case at all. Ultimately, as it was in our relationship, it has been the most loving breakup I’ve ever experienced, too. We still love each other, still live together until she finds a new place, still committed to the best for each other, and knowing that we aren’t meant to be together. And this change has set me on a path of wanting to make sure I take care of myself, too. (I have a tendency to feel alone if I don’t stay connected to what matters, if I don’t remind myself of what’s important.)

So I have dedicated myself to get up by an alarm clock at 7:00a (which is early, folks, I’m a freelancer for god's sake!), bolt out of bed, head out the door to start my first hour off with deep breathing, practicing gratitude, getting clear on what I want my future to look and feel like, and reminding myself to feel instead of shut down. I am lucky enough to have a beautiful forest and creek to jog along right across the street from me.

At a certain point along the path is a beautiful spot that overlooks a bend in the creek where I sit down and record whatever comes up. And I'd like to share the first few days of my video diary with you here ...

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