The herpes talk as vulnerability training

0:00Herpes talk is a training ground for you to practice what you already know hi I'm adriel creator of the herpes opportunity which is all about positively shifting your mindset disclosing to potential partners in a way that truly connects you and ultimately finding the love that you want and deserve now you can check out the free ebook linked in the description below about having the talk and now onto the video I hope you enjoy it right it feels really personal especially because it's sexuality and sexuality is at the core of our being and he's rejecting me based on something that is like sexual in nature of course it's gonna hit on that that part of us right but it's really helpful to like to to to position your perspective in such a way that you are you are offering this information hey I have herpes and here's the you know I'll educate you as much as you'd like to know and I I I care about you enough as a at least as a as a fellow human being on this earth to give you the choice or like in the disclosure conversation you can ...

1:20... show up not in the fear-based oh my gosh I'm gonna get rejected but in the it's not quite the right word but like almost being proud not like proud like hey look at me I'm amazing but like proud that like I'm I'm doing the right thing that's the kind of person I am and at that point when you share that it's out of your hands it's his decision whether he says yes or no what we're talking about here is like moving to your prefrontal cortex right the the part that can like reason the part that can kind of look at the whole picture as opposed to in this moment oh my god he's so hot I'm gonna have sex with him right it's like whoa zooming out a little bit looking at the whole thing and and and it's that shift that is so important I mean that's like that's the shift from being a child to being a grown-up right but all of us slip into like kind of being that you know child that's going to throw a temper tantrum or you know want to have this food or whatever right those urges it's like being an adult is about like seeing those urges and like breathing through them and like having reason like wrapping our reason around those urges and making sense of them right so so in the disclosure conversation this ...

2:37... is like all those those deep fears are coming out those you're in your reptilian brain because it's like you're in the fight flight or freeze mode right the party was like okay I need to have this conversation but what the [ __ ] am I doing I need to get the [ __ ] out of here this is totally unsafe you know like like what like what are you doing there's this devil on your shoulder that is like screaming at you like you idiot like get out of here right but your prefrontal cortex needs to come online stronger than that and be like look there there's a good reason why I'm doing this right and and that's why when you are when you're in the disclosure talk I mean you talk about you know you've you've gone through a lot of therapy you've done a lot of self like just self work which is awesome that is the first part the self-knowledge right like like getting like drawing the connections drawing all the connecting all the dots and like oh this makes sense oh my childhood and oh this is how it's impacting now and oh my gosh it makes sense the second part of that is in the application of it that's the hard part the herpes talk is a training ground for you to practice what you already know success for you is ...

3:54... having the talk from a place of confidence from a place of like but uh from a place of surrender almost like a not surrendering to him but surrendering to like I can't force him to say yes or no I'm I'm just gonna give him the data and I'm surrendering to the outcome what what can I do about it right like I'm just going to show up as the queen that I am you know and like knowing who I am dammit and and I'm here to educate you it's because I care it's because I'm a moral kind hearted person sensitive all like and this is what I need in a relationship is honesty and all of this that I am also like I'm demonstrating all of these qualities that I want to have in a man in relationship as well and uh you mentioned that little girl inside you like have have have her like that is your vulnerability like it's that part that you're really trying to protect but bring bring her in the conversation with you holding her hand and being that that parent to her right and like being like but just through your energy in the conversation and the confidence you are protecting her without having to run without having to follow through on the fear-based part of you but that you can like breathe through this and through that you're gonna ...

5:20... become stronger with that little girl I hope you got a lot out of that video and if you did please let me know please like comment and subscribe and keep an eye out for more videos just like this you