"You flipped the narrative, you had the story that you were a bad person and so you don't disclose vs. now 'I am going to disclose because I am a good person.'"
Difficult situations give us the opportunity to become stronger in our moral and ethical integrity. Sometimes we need to get slapped in the face by life to wake us up to the fact that we are in the drivers seat and not the victim of circumstance. Difficult situations can leave us feeling like shit, but help us move forward with more integrity. And it's possible that in the future when you disclose you might even feel excited — because this means you trust this other person with your vulnerability, and you have the courage to have tough conversations.