"It is a moment-by-moment thing, when we can choose to act from our best self. That is us acting not from ego, but from our heart, our spirit."
Developing the opportunity mindset is like raising a newborn baby. It takes time for it to grow, get stronger, and be able to face the world. The expectation of "just getting over" shame in an instant is another aspect of denial. Be patient with yourself as you shed the old victim story and embrace your new story. Your empowered story. Continue building this healthy perspective in your mind and heart. Instead of rushing through and skipping over this experience to get to some better future, see this as a moment-by-moment exploration of your humanity ... right now. This leads to more self-connection and a more holistic and grounded experience of healing.