A simple reframe to switch your fear of the herpes talk

0:02The practice here is that ongoingly like you are you're going to be you know through this whole dating process you'll be like finding guys that have like a lot of you know good qualities and like more and more of the quality man that you would really see yourself with right and there there there is going to come a time when you are really invested and you're like oh my gosh I really want this to go well again this is a practice this is a practice of shifting your mindset to recognizing that you're like disclosing to someone can be an exciting thing like you could get like jitters like oh my god I'm really excited right because do you know that fear and excitement in your brain when they do brain scans comes from the same exact place in your brain it's all perspective so you could if you have a lot of shame and a lot of guilt and all that it shows up is terror it's like oh my god I'm scared shitless of what's going to happen because this person is going to reject me if you can reframe it and actively be ...

1:25... in the space of openness when we can have our hands open right like that's the best way to feel a river right you can't just grab onto a river right so when we can have our hands open and let whatever flow through it flow through then you can actually say I'm I'm excited for this because what this means what this disclosure means is that I trust this man with my vulnerability I am like I what this disclosure means is that I want to go deeper with this man and of course I'm putting myself on the line I'm being vulnerable this is exciting oh my gosh and I yeah I'm scared but this is all so exciting because this is this marks a really important step in this relationship even if this ends up meaning that he says no thanks this is an important juncture in my relationship with myself to be an integrity to care about someone to care about them in their health to the point where I'm willing to disclose even if even if there's a chance of rejection Wow you